Girl child – no more a disgrace
Kalpana Chawla was adulated for becoming the first Indian woman in space. Sushmita Sen was applauded for winning the Miss Universe title. In an era when accolades are achieved by women it is shocking to witness a criminal amount of gender discrimination. What is surprising is the fact that even in metro cities like Mumbai and Delhi, we hear about severe instances of gender discrimination. The stories narrated below are such disturbing events in the life of mothers and their daughters.
An innocent infant who otherwise is a blessing for any family was cursed even before she was born. Gudiya lived only a mere 28 days. She suffered from severe jaundice and died of a respiratory arrest. Vidhi Arora, her mother still cannot recover from the loss of her little child. Gudiya’s biological father and paternal grandparents could not care less about her death. Vidhi Arora underwent an elective caesarian operation and instead of giving rest to her body she was fighting for her daughter’s life. She was repeatedly tortured by her husband and his family. When she refused to abort the girl child she was subject to physical abuse for several days. Her physical and mental mishandling during this time caused her unborn child to be born unhealthy. The only reason Vidhi never complained till then was because she hope to save her marriage. She hoped that her husband would come to her aid sometime. But today when Vidhi has undergone this tragic misfortune she stands up in protest. With the strength of a mother who is protesting against the injustice her little girl child had undergone.
Meetu Khurana is a similar story. She is mother to beautiful twin daughters, Guddu and Pari who were denied the right to even live when their gender was discovered. Meetu’s husband is a doctor himself. She was initially forced to perform sex determination but when she refused, she was subject to physical and emotional torture. Meetu was later tricked into taking an ultra sound and determining the sex of her unborn children. Her husband and in-laws tried everything to abort the pregnancy. The birthing later occurred under the care of Meetu’s own parents. Post-partum Meetu made several attempts to bring peace in the family but each of them failed. Meetu filed a complaint under the PNDT Act against her husband. She received discouraging words from the PNDT panel and life threats from the hospital that conducted the sex determination. She approached several other concerned organizations and each of them failed to react since there was no actual female feticide. Meetu has now decided to pursue a legal case against her husband’s misbehavior.
There are innumerable such stories that show the ugly face of societal attitude today. Each of these women has courageously tried to save their kids from forced death. Each of us need to understand that sex determination during conception occurs with the male chromosome and is in fact their incapability. Giving birth to a female child is not a choice of the mother. A child; be it male or female always brings pride to the family he or she is born to. Both the parents and their immediate family need to realize how the gender of an unborn child is not a sign of their underlying capability in the future.